Sometimes You Can’t Keep the Peace

I was hoping to make a bit more progress than this today. The finished mitt is the rough draft I made a couple days ago. The unfinished one only needed a few more rows. Sadly, my mother-in-law took up most of my energy this morning.

We have been having an increasingly strained relationship over the years, to put it mildly. I have put up with a lot from her and so has my husband. Every communication with her is a delicate voyage. My husband and I have very different ideas of what is and is not appropriate for our kids than she does. She has been badgering us for years to let the kids sleep over and I could list all the reasons we have said no, but it’s long and not worth the type space.

Recently, she learned that we let them stay in Buffalo with my mom and that has sent her off the deep end. She is so green with envy and red with rage that she doesn’t even realize our youngest didn’t go. So the text messages came in every couple of days. My anxiety built with each one. Today was my breaking point. I told her to fuck off. And it felt good. She has had it coming. I shared all of the lengthy messages with friends of mine who have watched me struggle with her and watched me agonize over how this all effects my husband. They are proud of me. And so am I. I am proud of my husband too. He stood his ground as well.

We’ll see how long we can keep this silence with her up. I really hope she gets help. I don’t see a way forward with her until she does. So all the cleaning and knitting and relaxing I had planned did not get done, but something else did and I’m ok with that.

Published by adg34

Wife, mother, massage therapist, crafter, book lover, and nature lover.

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